My boyfriend got lazy
At the beginning of the relationship, your boyfriend probably went out of his way to be nice to you. He was sweet. He was caring. He was reckless and adventurous. And most importantly, he was always proactive and fun. The months and years pass by, and now, is lazy the first word you think of when you have to define your boyfriend?SEE VIDEO BY TOPIC: TOLD MY BOYFRIEND HE GIVES LAZY H.3.A.D! *he proved me wrong!*
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Im so sorry for the very long post! Im asking advice because Im learning as I go and I dont really know what is normal guy behavior in a relationship. We started talking in November and from the get-go it was different than other guys. I felt he was very open and wasnt playing any games. He asked to make it official with me six weeks after we started talking. However, I was going away so I told him we should wait til I returned. I first noticed a decrease in texts about a week after making it official.
That also coincided with him being alot busier at work so I didnt over-think it. We usually see each other once during the week and then during the weekend I sometimes sleepover on saturdays he lives and works in jersey, I live in NYC, so it can be a bit difficult to see each other.
The decreased texting continues and I get that is normal. However, although he always replies, he doesnt ask about me anymore other than the random how are you if he writes first. I also feel he is not as affectionate touching, hugging, kissing with me in person as he used to be when we go out. Last week he had to cancel our date on wednesday. He had an extremely busy week at work. We saw each other yesterday sunday , he came over to a family event at my place and even brought flowers for my mother he met my brother, cousins, aunts, etc.
Today I asked him when we shall be seeing each other. He asked if thursday worked. I asked if wednesday was possible, he said he had been invited to an event that night by his former dean. I said, oh ok.
He didnt reply to that and that was the end of the convo. I wont ask him again when we will see each other. So Im a bit confused.
Am I reading too much into this?? These are things I thought to myself but read advice online which put it into check for me…. Dress sexy and have fun and enjoy the times. Get what am saying? Having long talks through text is a bad idea to start with. Save your long talks for in person. You sound all wound up about this and you are giving off vibes to him I am sure.
This is probably starting a vicious cycle of letting a man know that he is not making you happy — and men want to make a woman happy. I think you need to back up with this and relax to try and put things back on track. The more you show him dissatisfaction the more he will pull back. Guys will always tail off from the texting a bit as time goes on.
Its not a true reflection of a relationship anyway imo. Its a chore for a guy to text, really. He sounds like he is doing fine. No one is perfect and relationships will always have peaks and troughs.
Keep yourself busy and happy doing things you enjoy. This is the best thing you can be for yourself and the person you are seeing. Hi Rose, tell him how u feel. It is not needy to want more time and attention from ur bf. I went thru the same thing.
He will try to work something outif he cares for u. Communication is the key. I would suggest to talk to him and to stop texting and move to phone calls. Texting should only be for quick messages or to confirm plans. Better communication will make you feel more secure. Thanks for the replies! I DONT need him to text me more. What I need is for him to step up and be proactive about solidifying our plans and be more affectionate in person. I think he really doesnt have a clue. So I will talk to him about it next time we meet.
Do you even know what his purpose his? Men are GOAL orientated, not relationship orientated so although they know they do things to keep their lady happy, oftentimes they get so focused on their goals that you need to give them a nudge or two to do that and they will be thankful for that support. If so then INSPIRE him to do it so he can take a break from his goals for a bit and enjoy doing it with you :- Bringing him into your world is important too, because this is how a couple really gets to know each other.
I get you want to be with him more often but you have to come up with some solutions before you present it to a man. Hi all, I am in a similar spot. The only additional thing here is that my boyfriend seems to have a lot of female friends and he made a new one only recently.
We have had a showdown a couple of months ago because I saw a few text messages between some girl and him, although nothing harmful but still, I was mad. This time again, I realised that he made a new friend. He has written cute notes for me a couple of weeks ago but this sudden change is hard for me to digest. And I find myself constantly linking it to this new friend of his. I am constantly thinking of what if he is texting her and not me or may be finding her more interesting than me.
I have no idea where they met and how did they become friends. But I am constantly worrying and getting worked up. In fact, he was flying back home yesterday and we had a fight over his distant behaviour. He clarified and did express his love again but still, I am back to the same thought. What do I do?
Am I overreacting or am I being reasonable in my thoughts? Pls help! Kind of struggling to keep afloat.. Female or other. Would u rather he sit all day and play video games and text u job stop? He probably just thinks your too needy and have no life outside of him. Noone likes needy people. I seen it so many times the other way around. A guy approaches a girl and asks her out and she says yes.
He is very happy and is thinking that texting her a lot and smothering her means he cares and likes you. The girls always thinks he has no life and is too needy. Than she stops texting him. It ends. Also, he asked you out for Thur and you countered with Wednesday. So some of this is on you-he probably is as confused by you as you seem to be about him.
You are over-thinking and are going to push him away with your behavior-things seem fine for now. Name required :. Mail will not be published required :.
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Boyfriend losing interest or just getting lazy?